Niraj

Two weeks ago, Kelly and I visited our family again. As we walked down the hallway to their apartment, Niraj, who is 4, came out, ran toward us and said “Hello!”. On our previous visits he always acted kind of shy and looked at us as if we were crazy if we tried to talk to him. It’s nice that he is finally catching on to some more English and feels more comfortable around us. Although, I think he still thinks we’re kind of weird! For a lot of the visit, he was playing with a purple balloon. At one point his dad and his older cousin took it from him and began playing a “monkey in the middle” type of game. It was very amusing watching them all having fun playing a simple game, even Niraj was laughing although he was being teased.

We brought them pictures from the Halloween party and they liked them. Niraj kept rambling on and on in Nepali, which he does a lot, about the pictures. His dad said that he really liked the pictures. It seems like the adults have the same kind of reaction to children’s incessant talking as American parents do. Its funny, Niraj will just be talking in Nepali and it seems like the adults are only half listening to him. Although I really want to know what he’s saying, when we ask his dad, he’ll just kind of smile and not say anything. One time when we asked what he said following a rather long, expressive speech, his dad told us he was simply commenting on the door knob!

Niraj is constantly moving and has a lot of energy. He is definitely a handful, but he also brings lots of smiles and laughs!

123's and ABC's

Our visit on Thursday was actually different than every other time. Usually when we go we help the kids with their homework and just hang out and talk. The father of our family doesn’t speak English. He believes that he is too old to learn new things. He never even went to school in Nepal so he believes he can never really learn English or anything new. Even with this he still tries. He has notebooks FILLED with the numbers 1-99 and with the ABC’s. He just writes them over and over again and the practices saying them over and over again. The kids laugh and tell us that they hear him saying the numbers in his sleep. Meagan and I have been thinking about helping him also since we devote our time to the kids only (when it comes to homework and learning English). He had his notebook in his hand and I suggested that we do some work together. He told his kids that he would appreciate that but only if it did not bother us and if we had enough time for him. So for the couple of hours we literally just sat with him as he read through the number and letters. After a while the kids thought we should ask him the numbers out of order to make sure he really knows them. So I would randomly ask him what a letter or number was and 90% of the time he would get them right. They also wanted him to say the numbers backwards. As he was doing this he would confuse every number and say it backwards and the entire family was laughing the whole time. We had a great time and at the same time he got to practice learning. We also tried to do some reading. That didn’t necessarily go as smoothly but he was really trying and it was a great thing to witness. I plan on trying to spend time with him working on “homework” just as much as we do with the kids because he wants to learn just as bad.

Education

The day after the Halloween party Nick and I walked to our family’s house. We were greeted with a mix of “hello” with handshakes, and “Namaste” with the ritual gesture of placing your hands together and bowing your head. After we sat down and started interacting, a young man in his mid 20′s, started asking well thought out questions about the military (I had previously shared with the family that I had met many Nepali people in Qatar, UAE, and Iraq while in the Army)… It was obvious a recruiter told him some BS… We talked and agreed that the military is not a decision to be made lightly. There are many benefits associated with the military, but also many negatives that recruiters fail to mention. I shared some of the negatives with him and he agreed to look into other options, like college or a skilled trade first.

When our class discussed the schools in refugee camps I envisioned; a packed to the wall, one room school, with almost no materials, and a sub standard education. The Bhutanese refugees have proven everything true… except for the sub-standard education. The people we have interacted with are extremely intelligent and well educated. It is amazing to think how much they learned with the limited resources and many other difficulties they faced. The males in our family are fluent in at least two languages, and some are working on a third. Some of the young adults know English concepts better than most Americans…